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Describes the process that a person goes through after being in a committed relationship with a.. person affected with Borderline Personality Disorder, any generalized disorder, or a serious.. committed relationship.

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  • Red Flag Perfume
    on Nov 12, 2011
    I was watching NBC's Saturday Night Live recently and saw a faux commercial called "Red Flag." It most definitely typifies the BPD persona -- when you watch it, it's quite funny and puts things in perspective. As you recover from your relationship w...
  • Relationship Recovery Step 7a -- Exercise!
    on Jun 21, 2011
    I need to be sure to put this into the list of steps in recovering from the BPD -- or any -- relationship. You need to exercise when recovering from a relationship. Exercise is an important element -- something that you need to do for yourself -- and...
  • BPDs and Cheating: Can The BPD Be Faithful?
    on May 3, 2011
    I was thinking about the relationship that I was in with the BPD, and the more I think back about things, the more that I realize that she probably cheated on my, and I never knew it. I was ignorant, but when I think about it, the borderline got a se...
  • I Sometimes Still Dream About The BPD
    on Apr 15, 2011
    It's strange, but you still sometimes dream about the BPD. Real strange. Last night I dreamed about her. It was strange -- I saw her somewhere. It was so strange that it woke me up in the middle of the night and I couldn't fall back to sleep for som...
  • Include Comments From BPDs on a Relationship Recovery Site?
    on Mar 30, 2011
    I've thought long and hard about this, and I've gotten many, many comments from BPDs over the years. I think I've published only one of their comments to date. I've asked each of you, this blog's loyal readers, what you think about publishing comme...
  • BPD Relationship Recovery Step 7: Find Spiritual Fulfillment
    on Mar 8, 2011
    You've gotten out (or you are planning to get out) of a relationship with someone who is suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder, or you have gotten out of a relationship in general. You're healing, but you still hurt, Man, sometimes, the pain...
  • 3 Years
    on Dec 21, 2010
    So, it's now past 3 years since I last spoke with my ex BPD girlfriend. Three long years. I read back to my first post, Heal, and how I felt back then. I think about my life now, where I am, and how far I've come. It's been a long road, there were to...
  • August Vacation - Back to Business
    on Sep 3, 2010
    I've had a whirlwind summer, going all over the place, including the beach of North Carolina and many other exciting places. Time to get back to business. Where to Go From Here? This blog continues to grow in its readership, and I continue to get e...
  • Saw The Borderline Again: Life Goes On
    on Jul 27, 2010
    You know it's going to happen, and it just happened a week ago. My oldest son and I were playing golf together, right by the BPD's house and we saw her. She was playing golf too, with a guy (I'm going to assume that it's her current boyfriend). You...
  • BPD No Contact: Important for Recovery
    on Jul 14, 2010
    So, you've gotten out of a relationship with a borderline, yet you're still talking with the person. How's it going? Not so good, I bet. If the person is a true borderline, and you're having a true BPD relationship, there is no way that you can co...
  • Relationship Recovery Step 4: Start a Me Project
    on Jul 11, 2010
    Are you ready to start a project like the one that I've done here? I'm going to show you how. It's pretty easy -- sign up to become a member on this site, then go ahead and create a blog of your own. I'm moving The Me Project to http://www.bpdrelati...
  • Relationship Recovery Step 6: Find Others That Have Been There and Have Felt the Pain
    on Jun 24, 2010
    So, you've started your healing process, you've committed, you've felt the pain, you've built your support group and you've flexed it, but you're still missing quite a lot. You've just gotten out of a relationship with someone suffering from Border...
  • Things I can Do Now That I'm Out of a BPD RelationshipI was thinking about what my life is like now and how my life is so free now that I'm not in a BPD relationship. My life can be happy as I don't feel shackled or held back by someone else's insecurities. Jennie is a very trusting woman, and I apprec...
  • Did Darth Vader Suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?So, I recently saw some type of analysis of Darth Vader, asking the question: Did he suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder? When thinking about Darth and what made Anakin Skywalker Darth Vader (referring to the scene in Star Wars where he trie...
  • Relationship Recovery Step 5: Build Your Support Group, And Flex It
    on Jun 14, 2010 in 10 Step Plan for BPD recovery
    When you're going through truly difficult times, it's difficult to find a way out. You just can't do it alone. If you try to do it alone and handle all this heartache alone, you will be literally broken apart. I know from experience. Bottom line --...
  • Why Do We Rescue?
    on Jun 3, 2010
    Many of us who have gotten into a relationship with someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder would fall into the role of Rescuer. We rescue people from their misery and make their lives better. They love us because we are so good at res...
  • Borderline Personality Disordered Coworkers: CYA
    on Jun 2, 2010 in bpd coworker
    You're in the work force and have a coworker that acts, let's say, different. Great in some ways, not so great in other ways. This coworker can be your best friend; you've probably spent time bonding with this person and may have developed quite a li...
  • The Me Project Evolves
    on May 29, 2010
    I'm happy to say that I continue to move forward with the Me Project, but I'm now thinking that, like I've said before, the Me Project has become the Us Project. Along the lines of the Relationship Recovery Steps, I'm about to cover the next topic,...
  • BPD and Your Career
    on May 28, 2010
    So, you want to have a successful career and be with someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder? This may be more of a challenge than you can imagine. I can tell you first-hand. The BPD Must Be The Primary Focus of Your Life -- Always...
  • Relationship Recovery Step 3: Do The WorkSo you've gotten out of a relationship, and you've felt the pain, and then you've committed to letting yourself heal. No hiding from the pain or the healing that you need to go through. What's next? Doing the work. The work. What work? Aaaaah, th...